New Year, New Me! The declarations of millions wanting to change their
lives, throw everything out Marie Kondo-style, and lose a trillion pounds rang
out on 1/1/2019. Almost in unison, precisely at midnight.
You may have had a few, too. Maybe they’re goals for you. Maybe drastic
changes. Resolutions to change for the better are good, provided they are in an
attainable and healthy context.
If you are one of the thousands struggling with chronic disease or a mental
health crisis such as anxiety or depression, it’s easy to be completely
overwhelmed with guilt when we:
A.) Don’t make any resolutions, blow it off, and continue to exist in our
perpetually repetitive ways, or
B.) Make a million handwritten resolutions (in our very favorite gel pen on
beautiful stationary like those Instagram bloggers do) and fail. Each one of
them. Be it fail completely or fail to meet the time requirement, we fail.
Why does it have to be so black and white? Why do we feel like we have so
much to make up for? Is it just the script that we have been made to feel that
since we are sick, or sad, or scared, we somehow owe more just to be a
functioning equal in society?
This type of thinking is destructive and tears our already taxed mental
health apart. Whether you’re currently struggling physically, you’re
postpartum, or you’re a perfectly healthy individual just trying to make it in
the world – you are under no obligations to anyone or anything to hold tight
and succeed under these ‘resolutions’ that have no bearing on any time clock.
We are ever changing, ever growing, ever receding. It helped my internal
dialogue to picture my ‘view of self’ as a river in the seasons. In the summer
and hardship, I may dry, pulling back in fear or uncertainty, trying to make
decisions to direct my life one way. Or, in the winter/autumn months: months of
growth and change – rising, rising, rising and ebbing to a flow that isn’t my
But even in the middle of all this change and recession, I still ask you to
look at the One who controls your seasons and time. Your ebb, flow, and tempo.
Are the goals aligned with His own? Is your mission to drop ‘that nasty baby
weight’ healthy for you holistically, mentally, physically? Is it worth ripping
ourselves to shreds when we inevitably fail in the name of being human?
Resolve to do a Bible Study
every other day. Resolve to do a good deed not daily, but weekly. Resolve to
make your coffee as you pray in the morning – God doesn’t forget us, we
shouldn’t forget him either. Resolve to survive. Resolve to live.
We get up. We regain our balance. We put one foot in front of the other. And
we try again.
Happy New Year! May this year bring you peace and a renewed vigor to pursue
your life’s passions. Life is too short.